Last week, I wrote about how to know you are ready to move to the big city. Once you know you are meant to be in an urban dwelling, there are a lot of logistics left to follow up on. Maybe the scariest (aside from seeing some shoebox sized apartments in the Lower East Side) is trying to find someone to live with.
If you’re still in college, you’re lucky. You have a huge network at your fingertips (and maybe some fab roommates you already love that are also looking to move) that you can work to find the best roommate set up for you. If you’ve since left college or maybe are looking for a new set up, there are a couple ways you can go about finding a person to live with that won’t completely creep you out (oh, the horror stories).
BEST PRACTICES FOR FINDING A ROOMIE:
Use Facebook – Perhaps the best way to find a roommate. You’ll trust who you find through other friends, and it won’t be so awkward when you meet up in person for the first time. Similarly, try sending a blast email to all your friends and ask if they know anyone looking to move to the city.
Craigslist – A necessary evil, I know MANY people who have found great apartments and great roommates through Craigslist. Just be sure you exercise caution and safety – on first meeting of a potential Craigslist roommate be sure to bring a friend.
Your parents – Your parents have a stronger network than you know. Ask them to ask around about any people your age who may be in the city already or looking to move. Since parents are behind the set up, it will most likely be an ideal situation (your potential roommate won’t want to piss off HER parents by being a crappy roommate)
WHAT NOT TO DO:
Bunk with work colleagues – No matter how close you are or how much fun they are, it will get to be WAY too much. You will be literally inviting any work drama into your house, and any home/personal drama into the office. Not needed.
Settle for time/cost restraints – If you have a weird feeling about living with a person, there is probably a reason. Don’t convince yourself to move into a space to save money, because the apartment is gorgeous or because you’re afraid you won’t find another roommate in time. The first priority is your comfort and safety.
In order to love New York, you need to love your home – NYC (or any large city) is a fabulous place, but it takes a lot out of you. You need a place you’ll feel good about coming home to and can kick up your feet. Your roommate can either help you make that space or hurt it. Choose wisely.