A few of you have written into us about moving to a new city or starting a new job and wanting to document the experience. I’ve always been a writer, whether its keeping a journal or pouring out my heart on the blog, so I understand the itch to get your story out there. Thanks to social media, there are loads of ways to put yourself out into the world and meet new people with similar circumstances. With this openness, comes a lot of pressure to be perfect or portray yourself with your best face forward. Isn’t it funny that while we are looking to express ourselves, we often wonder how we can express ourselves BEST?
I’m here to tell you, don’t be nervous about the how or why, just be you! Of course, if you’re starting a Twitter, blog or Pinterest board for work reasons, there is an element of professionalism that needs to be involved. And spell check goes a long way. Other than that, don’t feel the need to impress or fit in while you type ferociously away or collect photos that reflect your mood. Share a silly story. Take a photo of yourself without makeup. Those that come and find you will praise your work because of who you really are, and those are the only kinds of people you want around anyway.
One of my recent posts has a lot of you buzzing on Twitter. In this post, I wrote: “When you feel a little uncomfortable, that’s a sign of growth and change.”
I realize that this might be a scary thought, especially for introverts like myself. The key here is to take some baby steps to push yourself out of your comfort zone in all areas of your life, so the important BIG steps won’t feel as scary. So if you want to push yourself to speak up in meetings and brainstorms but you’ve never been that outspoken before, start with painting your nails a new color or wearing your hair a different way. Even doing a new workout or cooking up a delish meal you’ve never tried. Doing something different and conquering the challenge will insert some much-needed and much-deserved confidence in all the parts of your life.
Here are a few ways you can push your limits one by one, until you have none!
Get a bold new color on your nails. Julep has some gorgeous blues, yellows and purples for summer
Cut your hair! I love doing this. Go to a stylist you trust, sit in the chair, and ask for a cut that would fit your face. They know what they’re doing!
Get those sky high platforms you thought were too bold
Mix up your dating scene – try Tinder, OKCupid, or Match. Ask a friend for a blind date set up
Kick yourself into high gear. Find a new workout routine on YouTube, or meet new people at this FREE Zumba class being offered by Skinnygirl for the next 7 weeks in NYC. (I also recently became a Tone It Up convert. If you guys are interested, I’ll write a post on it!)
Host a dinner party or happy hour. Nothing quite boosts my mood like making a great cocktail or meal for friends
I’m an avid follower of Cupcakes and Cashmere, and I’ve really enjoyed the recent “Links I Love” addition to the blog. In that vain, thought I would encourage some Friday web wondering by posting a few of my favorite links that I’ve come across this week. Hopefully these will provide much needed distraction on your summer Friday.
Memorial day is always the start of summer to me, even if it is technically a month early. The weather is being a little moody, but we’re seeing signs of warmer weather. This is the time when I like to update my skin regimen a little bit. In the winter, I am constantly combating dry skin issues, which can lead to congested skin and breakouts (beyond frustrating). With the humid weather in New York I don’t have to worry too much about dry skin any more, but I do have to undo some of the damage I did with heavy moisturizers and foundation during colder times.
The kick off to my skincare re-haul was a facial, which was so desperately needed I can’t even tell you. If you’ve never had a facial before or not sure you can afford one, be sure to check sites like Gilt City and Groupon for deals. I was always skeptical about how much one appointment could change my skin, but the answer is A LOT. If you’re having any issues and not sure you’re ready for a derm, head to your spa and book an appointment.
To keep up the glow that my facialist achieved, and prep my skin for some sun (and sunscreen), I have simplified my regiment to only include a few things I really need:
1. Skinceuticals LHA Cleansing Gel - I use this wash morning and night, but if I'm not wearing makeup through the day sometimes I'll even skip the morning. With my congested skin, it can be tempting to use masks, brushes, physical exfoliates, the works... but really I should try the opposite. I use my Olay brush maybe once every 10 days, and otherwise I use eye makeup remover and this cleanser. That's it!
2. Neutrogena Combination Skin Moisture - I have dry spots and oily spots, and this product does the trick. I did PR for a high-end dermatologist once, and he said if he wasn't using his own skincare product (which was amazing), he'd only use Neutrogena. I trust the man.
3. Le Metier de Beaute Peau Vierge Dark Spot Corrector - I have some scaring from trying to scrub off acne over the winter (hint - THAT DOESN'T WORK), so it's time for damage control. This stuff is ultra moisturizing overnight and lightens the appearance of any scaring in a matter of weeks. Obsessed.
Adrianna and I have both shown you what we need to have at our desks to keep our sanity. While a lot of the items have a specific work function (post-its, notebooks, file organizers), some do not (photos of delicious boys). I do, however, need to keep a slew of beauty products on hand to make sure I stay comfortable throughout the day. I’m lucky that I work with beauty brands and attend beauty events, so I get to sample a lot of items and keep little travel-friendly sizes at my desk for testing. There are a few things that I cannot live without, though:
Purell: Needed when running in and out of the office
Hand cream: I’m almost obsessive about keeping my hands smooth. I usually use Eucerin during the winter, but have recently become obsessed with Julep’s Rock Star Hand Cream
Everyone has their own feelings about Valentine’s Day. Whether you’re single or attached, I think Valentine’s Day is a good excuse to be a little festive – even if it’s just buying yourself some Necco Sweethearts and doing something a little special with your makeup. The hardest part of course, is taking your flirtatious look from the office out on the town for a night with the girls or a romantic date.
I think the easiest way to be fun at work and flirty at work is to go with a cat-eye to smokey eye look. You can play up the smokey-ness as much as you want, or even keep it really cat-eye with a red lip later in the day. Here are a few of my go-to products for an easy v-day look: