Last month, I did a post on when it was okay to let your PR girl claws come out. I would like to address the opposite side of that issue, on when you’re getting some attitude from a co-worker, or you feel some nasty nonsense creeping up within yourself.
Everyone has really crappy days. And the Chain of Screaming really does exist, and it is a beast to deal with. Sometimes, people let off steam in unfortunate ways. Getting a big, steaming slice of ‘tude can ruin your day, and working in a profession run by women it’s hard not to take it personally.
Here are a few ways you can deal with a distasteful demeanor, whether it’s your own or someone else’s:
Remind yourself that this will pass – If it’s a one time thing, tell yourself the feeling is fleeting and you’ll be back to your real relationship with your coworkers soon enough. Stress leads to stressful conversations. It happens. If it’s a repeat offense, whether you’re dishing it out or taking it, you need to talk to a supervisor ASAP
Take a walk – If you’re feeling like negativity is taking over your communication, get out of the office. Push back your next meeting by 15 minutes and walk outside. Don’t get on your phone, don’t cry in the corner. Keep moving, and walk to where you want to walk to (Starbucks, Pinkberry, J.Crew…). Let your mind be quiet, then try to get yourself happy
Take it out in positive ways – Attitude generates more ill manners, but, it can stop with you. Avoid social media, but write an email to your sister, your mom, your boyfriend. An objective party who listens to you rant, then reminds you how hard you are working afterwards. Then…
Give yourself a mental boost – You are doing the best you can. Show up attitude by knocking the assignment out of the park. Nothing combats negativity like growth and success. Show it.